20 things I have learnt in my early 20’s

In just under two weeks I will be turning 23, and after taking a good week to accept Mean Girls was created a decade ago, I have finally come to terms with my age through a list of everything I have learnt so far. Here is 20 things I have learnt in my early 20’s.

1. It is okay not to have your shit together, actually it is expected to be a complete mess. Waking up with a nightclub’s stamp from the night before transferred onto your face and finishing off the leftover kebab for breakfast, does not mean your teacher was right about you not going anywhere in life, it just means you’re cultured.

2. If you take less than five minutes to decide whether or not to have guacamole on your nachos, it means you have the ability to make informed, intelligent, life decisions. Don’t get me started on sour cream.

3. It is a time when less and less people card you when buying alcohol, so wear a school uniform to trick the bastards.

4. It’s no longer acceptable to just have a gym membership, now you actually have to use it.

5. No matter who comes over to your house (whether it’s a pool boy or a delivery lady) if your parents catch you talking to them they think you are going to marry and start a family with them.

6. Sleepovers don’t mean sleeping over anymore.

7. Post Festival Depression is actually a serious illness.

8. Used by dates become more of a recommendation than a necessity.

9. It’s completely fine to want all your similar aged friends to get married so you can take full advantage of the open bar, but think yourself as too young to tie the knot.

10. You’ve only got a few more years before you become too old for Instagram. Post as many selfies as you can.

11. Unless you are a professional or get paid, it’s kind of weird if you play sport.

12. The snooze button is your best friend.

13. Two day hangovers are actually a thing.

14. It’s time to accept that you will never go to a house party ever again – well not one like you did in your teen years where everyone you had on Myspace showed up, and the police showed up while you were curled up in the backyard telling a bottle of Passion Pop that you love it.

15. If you don’t have internet banking by now, then you aren’t a real person.

16. Chocolate is a colour, not a food source.

17. It becomes your responsibility to check for tissues in your pockets before you wash your own clothes.

18. Dating a celebrity seems more and more unattainable.

19. It is socially acceptable to have a public melt down over Subway not putting enough salad on the sub.

20. You’re going to be 30 sooner than you think.


Sexism or Feminism Feud?

Family feud has flustered the nation with the recent airing of the segment which showed the nation’s answers of what they believe a woman’s job and a man’s job is.

Despite articles and comments stating they believe the two questions were ‘ill-advised’ and ‘wrong’, only the women’s category has caused fierce backlash.

For those unfamiliar with the show’s format, it sees 100 random Australian’s surveyed about certain categories, which host Grant Denyer then puts them forward to two opposing teams, made up of family members, on the show to score points by stating what they think would be the top answers. The winning team then goes on to compete for $10,000.

The criticism it generated centred on the misogynistic answers that topped the women’s question including hairdressing, reception work and domestic duties like washing clothes and doing the dishes.

Obviously the credibility of the surveyed have been questioned, and full-fledged arguments regarding women’s equality rights have developed. However, what about the stigma attached to the men’s category?

Answers for this category included building, mowing the lawns, taking out the bins, being a mechanic, tradie, fixer of things, carpenter and plumber. What about the men who want to be a hairdresser, a teacher, a house husband, or a gardener?

Where is the uproar about these answers for men?

It appears people are so quick to defend women’s rights, but forget that it is equally difficult for men who want to break into industries which have a feminine stigma attached.

Denyer also defended the show on his twitter stating it was not the show’s fault, rather Australia provided those answers.

In some sense Denyer is correct. Ask your parents and grandparents what they think a woman’s or man’s job is and these type of jobs are the first one’s that come into mind because they have been ingrained into their cultural values. It doesn’t mean they are the ONLY jobs women can do. It is just what Baby Boomers grew up with, and more than likely the people surveyed were of this generation, rather than generation Y, as this is the target audience.